I wrote a blog earlier in the week about my fistula which in the end was probabl8y more information than you ever wanted. But in the end being as quirky as I am I write where my curiosity takes me.
In my blog I talked about swagger. I realized that I noticed something in watching the women's national basketball championships. I realized that it now seems to be really important to show up in life with swagger. A kind of in your face approach to life. I had not bee paying attention to this swagger impact before watching the women play and posture during the game.
I may be way off base but it is part of this swagger that it produces really strong voices. This is someone who is saying 'this is who I am.' I like it! I think one of the important steps of our life is to find our voice. When I ask you 'how are you doing" I really want to know. This means that my expectation is that you will have a voice of who you are as we interact and you are willing to share that voice. I have been blessed in my life to have met some of the most powerful women. They all came from different places and some of showing up was about the swagger. But some of it was from inner confidence and some of it was a balanced approach of life.
I come from a generation that taught us not to stand out. If I was noticed in my family, I was in for problems. It was so much better to be invisible. But boy was it difficult to have a voice.
It took all the workshops and retreats and life experiences to have me get to where I am today. It is my favorite quote, "Be yourself because everyone else is taken." It is my reminder from my mentor that if I have not made someone angry this week then I am not being authentic.
This is the answer to the exercise of saying three words that describe me. What might be your three words? One of mine is two words together. It is the phrase I am "alarmingly enthusiastic.' Not just filled with enthusiasm but overflowing and bubbling up with enthusiasm much like a pressure cooker.
So in our quest to find our voice we must also find what feeds our voice. I get caught up in my rabbit holes and now and then I will have myself a little pity party. I go through a 'poor me' process and after a period of time my wife will smile and say "would you like some cheese with your whine?"
Find your voice! Speak your voice! Be your authentic voice! Start off with the three words that describe you. Once you have them then go to two or three friends and ask them to give you three words that describe you. Is there a disconnect between your words and the ones your friends use? Learn how to align them by speaking authentically! Start now!
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