This has been a notable week for me. Yesterday they started the process of my dialysis access changing from catheters in my neck to a fistula in my arm. We did the first needle yesterday and Frankie my fistula did great. He has great swagger as I've mentioned before and he rose to the occasion.
I just came in from sitting on the back patio with afternoon temperatures of 80 degrees. I spent 10 minutes blowing bubbles through my bubble machine. I then just watched the color hues of the bubbles rising in the afternoon sun as the wind pushed the bubbles here and there.
We've had f ew phone calls around some material we had stored for almost ten years and we have now passed the material on. During the conversations, I am reminded that communication has all sorts of patterns and you must listen in between the words to really listen. When I was in college, I was pretty much a straight talker so I did not always understand innuendo or subtle hints.
So I wanted to talk about a couple kinds of communication that stops the flow and limits the heart talk between two people.
First is called triangulation. Triangulation is when I talk to you about someone else. I should be talking to the person directly but I triangulate. So through the years I often have stopped people from sharing information because they are not talking about me.
Secondly is the gathering of witnesses. This is the process of having an opinion and trying to enlist others to follow my opinion. It is as if we are making a presentation or making our case when we are talking.
Sometimes when we are talking our mind is actually preparing our next part of the conversation based on the last thing our person we are conversing with and really not listening.
When I was so caught up in this system I always found that as I came up with thoughts for the conversation it had moved on and we were well beyond the conversation. In this now, I speak from the heart about my opinions and share my thoughts.
So all of these are part of the pattern that keeps us from being 100% in the conversation. Divine does not show up when we are ego preparing our conversation responses. But when we are open to the flow then everything changes. It means you are fully present for the other person. It moves from a mind conversation to a heart conversation. I will take a heart conversation every time because it is authentic.
So the challenge is that each day setting a goal of having a heart conversation each day. Then notice how a heart conversation has a flow that is beyond measure. Have a heart to heart today!
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