Confidence

I'm concerned that the world seems to be filled with people who have the answers for us. We only have to look to see the right thing to think; the right thing to drive; the right thing to wear. All advertising is based on a premise that I don't subscribe to and that is 'I am not enough.'

Self-confidence is a term that is not well used in today's world. It is that step of having confidence in ourselves. It is so much easier to get caught up on the doubt side. But I always wonder how do we stand strong in who we are with a belief about life. This is a big part of the ego versus the Divine.

It is so hard to maintain the thought we are always on the path. We are not taught growing up that every mistake is a learning tool to get better at being who we are.

Brene Brown is a wonderful teacher who ended up doing much of her work around shame. Shame is that part of us that holds us back from having a totally strong voice. I believe and Dr. Brown echoes the thought that at all times of our lives we in continuous internal conversation. Now I believe that Divine conversation is empowering and filled with love and strength. Thus all the times that our inner voices are anything but love-based it is not the Divine side of us. Our internal voice is contaminated when it states to me, "Dave, you are so stupid!" Unfortunately my internal voice does this often and there is no room for confidence.

So the more I can share this internal process that can occur and bring it to light everything changes. I want to highlight things. In my inner world or outer world, the more I put a light on a subject the better it is. Light exposes the 'dark' side that is hidden and we note immediately that behind the darkness stands the Divine.

In the Unity Church Christmas service, there is a candlelighting ceremony. Each person is given an individual candle and we discover quickly the light chases away the darkness. This is true in every aspect of our lives. Light and focus eliminate darkness. So always bring the light to all situations. It does not allow any trauma to remain stagnant or fester; it brings about healing. Communicate and share and shame becomes forgiveness both for yourself and your life. Take the next step!