My brother and sister left this morning after spending a week visiting. What a precious experience! I realized part of it is I really like these two people. But there are two additional parts of the process with them.
First is the history. The three of us spent time together as we were forming and learning who we came here to be. Part of our experiences that formed the good, bad, and ugly were done together in a thing called childhood. My sister swears her two older brothers spent their time trying to "kill" her and gives us examples. We just never wanted her to tag along yet at the same time we were so ready to protect our 'baby' sister from any threat. Who knew when we told her to jump off the roof she trusted our advice and jumped off........
The other is that the three of us were involved in the process of relationship with our parents. It's interesting that my brother and I were essentially left alone and could do anything we wanted anytime we wanted. We thought this was normal yet as adults it was pointed out as neglect abuse. Psychologically words were used as weapons in our household.
Yet years later when the three of us discussed this situation our sister said she lived in a completely different world where there was no neglect - after all she was the princess, the girl of the family.
Now all three of us have lived relatively long productive lives. We are who we are and have grounded and strong beliefs and opinions. We give thanks and actually enjoy spending time with each other.
It seems to be the result of a couple things. First our time together is more important than any of the material things of life. Then there is the fact there are no expectations - we've done all the drama when we were kids. We've seen behind the curtain and know there is no 'magic' wizard. There is the magic of each other. These are the ones that have been assigned to us on this time around. In the end. it has all worked out and I feel like I am the lucky one!
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